It's a common experience for a woman to look a man in the eye, and tell him "no." Regardless of her reason, "no" should be a simple word that carries little weight beyond the moment. Unfortunately, for too many women simply saying "no" can put them at risk of verbal abuse, online harassment, or even physical violence. Our guest today, Dr. Pamela Gurley, says that's toxic behavior that needs to stop and that would-be suitors should respect her choice. Why do some men react negatively to rejection, and why is it important to call out this toxic behavior? Dr. Gurley is with us today to explain. Stay with us. -- We’re thrilled to have Dr. Gurley as a contributing writer to our Lean to the Left blog site, something that evolved after she appeared as a guest on this podcast last year. She’s a retired U.S. Army veteran, holds a BA in Psychology, a Master’s in Health Service Administration, and a Doctorate in Management. In November 2019, Dr. Gurley released her first book, “I Am Not A Stereotype: I Am H.E.R.,” and in March 2021, she released her second book, “Black Girl Activist”, instantly becoming an Amazon Best Seller. Dr. Gurley also is the author of the popular multilingual Brown Girl and Brown Boy children’s books series. Here are some questions we discussed with her: Q. Dr. Pam, talk to me about this issue of rejection and the reasons why some men take it so badly. Q. Is this an issue of ego and entitlement, or what? Or a threat to their masculinity? Q. Why do some men turn into stalkers and how should a woman handle them? Q. What needs to happen to ease this situation and reduce the risk for women? How can men be held accountable for their behavior? Q. Do you believe these behaviors vary according to race? Q. What new projects do you have underway? Q. Where can people find your books? How’s the children’s series doing?

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